Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect
for others guides our manners. - Laurence Sterne
Respect and Value
Do we not all want to be respected and valued? What good are we to others
if we do not help sustain and enhance their lives? We all want to be
affirmed, yet this simple act is left undone so much of the time in a cold,
frenzied and troubled world. How can we consider ourselves to be loving and
of goodwill, if we do not look for opportunities to acknowledge, respect,
value, and affirm qualities in other potential children of God?
So, what are the essentials in showing respect and acknowledging value,
being respected and valued?
You can't begin to show proper respect if you are unaware of what is
worthy of the respect, so the first part of respecting some quality is to be aware or
acknowledge that aspect, dimension or capability. You can't respect a
dimension in a person if you are unaware of it.
Value and Acknowledge
The second part of respecting something or someone means to see that
aspect, dimension or capability as having value. You can't respect a
dimension in a person if it has no value. And they can't relate to you as a
sensitive, caring person if you do not acknowledge their qualities.
The third part is the most important--where there is life-enhancing meaning
another person--is to in some way honor the individual by an
affirming remark, sentiment or deed.
These simple steps go a long way to
enhance other lives, including your own. You may have significant virtuous,
a sterling character, pristine values, and make a significant contribution
or a great sacrifice, but if you don't practice the simple actions above,
you will not be considered to be a warm, loving person.