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The Ego Problem
Free Will Article
Hypocrisy Analysis
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Belief Arrogance
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Issue of Style
Good/Evil Trivialization
Tyranny of Time
Loss & Recovery of Self

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Thoughts on the Ego Problem

"Man's greatest instrument, his psyche, is little thought of, and it is often mistrusted and despised. 'It's only psychological' too often means: It is nothing." - Carl. G. Jung, Man and His Symbols (1964)

Do I have an ego problem? Oh, yes! But the premise is that having an ego problem is NOT my fault. I didn't ask for or sign up to have an ego problem. Why do I have it?

Many books have been written on this subject, but instead of seeing that our egos are naturally and ineluctably wounded by the "environment" that we develop in, many guru authors define the ego as something that needs to be killed or done away with.

There are two aspects to the "human condition" that we find ourselves in that contribute to the illness and vitiation of our egos:

  • Disempowerment, and this has been dealt with on the page Empowerment.

  • Devaluation

Also on this same site page it has been written,

"Ideally, we spend our lives growing, learning, becoming wiser and more loving, becoming richer, deeper, more wonderful human beings. But the material universe doesn't notice. The message from the physical universe that is constantly in the background is one of relentless indifference. No matter how famous, beloved, celebrated, or virtuous, gravity never lets you skate by one time when you fall over a cliff. Electricity never lowers the voltage to a safe level because you are loving, wonderful or wise."

This introduces the second major contributor to a wounded ego, devaluation. This last part has evidently been missed by the “great” philosophers and psychoanalytical philosophers. They have seen the more obvious evil or traumatic aspects that the developing child inevitably encounters, such as the trauma of birth, toilet training, weaning, sexual development and rejection trauma, some unavoidable level of a mixture of childhood physical and emotional abuse, and destiny of death. But what should be obvious is that bad experiences in a loving environment are not as destructive to the ego as a much more moderate level of negative experience in an environment of indifference. It has been noted and said many times that the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference.

We are born into this tumultuous, dirty, messy, troubled, dangerous, insane world and from moment one onwards we NEVER have everything—represented by IF-I-SEEK-US—that we want and need. There are two and only two implications: 1) the universe and/or God cannot deliver what we naturally want and need, or 2) it/He doesn't want to. Only in option two is there any wiggle room for a pathway to total, unimpaired success, a way to understand why this is not being delivered..

The continuous, incessant implication or message that comes to our unconsciousness from this indifference is that we don't matter, we don't have any real, eternal value. This is the background within which our egos develop. And so we, our unhealthy egos, cope with the wide variety of attitudes within, and behaviors by ourselves that we don't like to see in other people.

These coping mechanisms are legion, and run the gamut from cowering fear and timidity to delusions of invulnerability and immortality, from inferiority complex to superiority complex. The effort to convince ourselves and others that we do matter, do have value, runs from self-deprecation to self-aggrandizement, from being cowardly to heroic, from abject sacrifice and servitude to greed and selfishness, from false humility to arrogance, etc. Our unhealthy egos are vulnerable to the unwarranted or irrational guilt and shame often fostered by institutional religion, and vulnerable to many levels of denial as to the true state of our personalities and character.

One of the worst aspects of our ego problem is the denial that we have been careless, delinquent, not completely intellectually responsible, in building or accepting our belief system. Our ego is immediately alarmed and armed if our BS is threatened and attacked. We almost always react defensively and/or aggressively even though our BS has been developed intellectually irresponsibly, and isn't consonant with reality. This is a HUGE impediment to any progress toward sanity and unity, is it not?

We also usually react defensively and/or aggressively when someone takes a superior or patronizing attitude towards us, or tries to fix us. I TRY to be aware enough so that when this happens I can say jovially, “You’re not trying to fix me, are you? I don’t remember crawling up on the operating table and handing the scalpel to you.“ But so many times the procedure is subtle and done through innuendo, and we are “het up” before we realize what is going on. And it IS galling when this is done in a clumsy way or when someone of lesser understanding tries this.

We also get internally uptight when someone mirrors our own smallness and/or ego problems. Again, I am not saying that having an ego problem is our fault, but we are derelict only if we fail to become honest with ourselves and have the courage to look at and admit external and internal reality for what it is.

And there is also the resistance to admit it when we are wrong or make a mistake. No need to elaborate here.

Could the healing of our egos come through a convincing demonstration and an understanding of it that we truly do have enormous and eternal value? Is there any way to really believe that?

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